One full year spent in Turkey.
I go from being totally overwhelmed and excited to being completely antisocial and alienated. Last night having a conversation with a fellow expat in Bursa I got to thinking that not having any expectations is the best way to start building your experience in a new culture and new society.
Let’s think of it like building a house with little LEGO bricks. But let’s say that the box with the bricks does not indicate whether they are colourful or black, square or rectangular, moreover it doesn’t say how many pieces are inside, what age is appropriate for using it and it doesn’t give you even a little glimpse or idea of what you can build from it. Yes, you go online and you search for blogs with instructions, you read through thousands of DIYs, you register on websites that say “the easiest way to build stuff from LEGO bricks”.. but you still don’t know what can you build from it.
Whether we want to acknowledge or not, we are in charge of our thoughts that become things and shape our own Universe. I particularly adore the quote from “Eat. Pray. Love” where Richard tells Liz how to select her thoughts. I embrace this whole philosophy and try to follow it with all my heart.
“You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, “Eat. Pray. Love”
I believe our personal happiness is a result of everyday efforts we put into it, it’s a hard and challenging work and it’s so worth it, because if not for the reason of striving to be happy, why else are we here?
There comes a moment for most of us in life, when we decide we are not satisfied with what we see in the mirror and we can’t blame it anymore on our mother-nature. No matter how many kilo 5 or 25 you want to lose, no matter how unhealthy your lifestyle was yesterday, you can start changing today!
Two months ago I told myself that I want to be healthier and stronger! No more dieting, no more restricting meal plans that only make you feel miserable. No more blaming myself. I needed a rational way to incorporate healthier choices and sport in my life. Former professional tennis player, I dropped sport long time ago. Then there were my weak attempts to start doing yoga at a nearest yoga studio, then I bought a 1-year fitness club subscription but only went there 10 or 15 times. There always was an explanation: too far, too expensive, too cold in the swimming pool, not clean enough, I’m too tired after work, no I can’t go to gym at 7 am before work, oh, I lost 3 kilo this month and have my perfect weight so why would I go to the gym, I don’t have time, I don’t have time, I don’t have time for it. I would always look at pictures of fit women and think – well, she has a good metabolism, genetics, too much free time or any other empty excuses. This year I made myself change. First the change happened in my head, then in my body. Continue reading